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Trích nguyên văn của bác junruan:
"Anh thấy dạo này trong FCBVN chúng ta có nhiều người kêu buồn với chán ghê răng quá.
Anh thì anh không thích sống trong sự buồn thảm, thôi thì anh tạo ra chủ đề này để các cô chú nào thấy "đau bụng" thì vào đọc, coi như là uống thuốc Béc Be Rin vậy.
Chủ đề này do một cô bé bên diễn đàn 3M mở ra, cô ấy post lên nội dung cuốn "Being Happy". Anh đọc thấy hay thì anh dịch ra, giờ anh lại cóp về đây nhé."
Cunhoacon
Chắc hẳn rất nhiều người trong 3M đã quen thuộc với cuốn sách "Đời thay đổi khi chúng ta thay đổi" của Nhà xuất bản Trẻ. Tôi xin mạn phép giới thiệu với mọi người bản tiếng anh của cuốn sách có tựa đề Being Happy của Andrew Matthews. Hy vọng ai đã yêu mến Đời thay đổi khi chúng ta thay đổi cũng sẽ dành thời gian cho Being Happy.
Cunhoacon
Being happy!!
Chapter 1
Patterns.
Let's take a look at this mind of yours. When you walk across the road, do you have to concentrate on every step? When you chew gum, do you have to think about it? When you eat a pizza, do you have to work at digesting it? "... now if you can just fix this anchovy, I can relax and go to sleep." When you go to sleep, do you need to concentrate to keep breathing?
You don't do any of these things with your conscious mind, do you? You do them with your subconscious. We might say that the minf is like an iceberg. There is the part we see, the conscious, and the much larger part we don't see, the subconscious. Our subconscious mind is responsible for a large slice of the results that we get in our life.
When we find history repeating itself in our lives, it is that part of our minf that is responsible. Many of us hae recurring patterns - the same old experience or behavior keeps on cropping up.
Do you know somebody who is always late? I used to play tennis with a fellow who has always late. We would play tennis before work at the Hilton. I would say, "David, we are playing tennis tomorrow at 7.00 a.m." He would say, "I will be there." "Have you got that time?" "7.00 a.m. I will be there!"
Sure enough, at 7.15 next morning David would arrive. Ha had all the excuses. "My son had borrowed my racquet and put it under his bed." Next week, the same thing would happen. At 7.16 David would arrive. The reason: "I could only find one tennis shoe!" The following week, he arrived at 7.15 sharp. "The goldfish was sick and the baby was crying." And so on through the flat batteries, power failures, lost car keys and underwear that was left wet in the washing machine.
Finally, I said, "David, let's make a deal. For every minute that you are late from now on, it will cost you a dollar." He hurt his shoulder the next day and we have not played tennis since!
He thought that the world was doing it to him! He was not trying to be late consciously, but on his subconscious he had a programme th said "you are always running behind"... and that programme was running his life.
If David had accidentally got uop early and found himself on target to arrive on time, his inner programmes would have helped him find a tree to hit, or a strange road on which to get lost. He would have then taken a deep breath and said, "That's more like it - I am back behind the eight ball!"
DRAMA PATTERNS. You probably know people who have drama patterns. Theie lives are long dramas. You meet them in the street and make the fatal mistake of asking, "How are you?" You find out that the cat has just died, the car has been repossessed, Dad accidentally burned the house down, a meteorite wiped out their garage and they have just been diagnosed as having a very, very severe case of something that you have never heard of.
Whenever their life threatens to go smoothly, a little subconscious voice says, "Hey, this can't be right!" andvery soon another drama emerges. They lose their job, they get arrested... and everything returns to normal.
We are giong to look at what we can do about these patterns later, but for the monent, let us identify some more.
ACCIDENT PATTERNS. Some people have a talent for having accidents. They spend their lives falling off ladders, off bicycles, out of trees, getting electrocued and having car accidents. I know an insurance agent in her early twenties who has owned five cars since her sixteenth birthday. She told me, "Every time I bought a new car, someone smashed into the back of me. After five of those accidents, I quit buying new cars for my own survival!"
SICKNESS PATTERNS. Do you know anybody with a sickness pattern? Some people get colds twice a year. Some people get sick everytime a big opprtunity comes along. Some people get sick every Monday morning!
MESS PATTERNS. Some people are inclined towards mess. They don't consciously try and do it, but their pattern is so strong! Their desk is a mess, their files are a mess, their hair is a mess. You can come along and straighten everything out for them and within twenty minutes, their office, their bedroom, their car, their lunchbox, all look like they have been through a hurricane.
BROKE PATTERNS. Have you get someone who is always broke? It is not what we make, but what we do with what we make! People with a 'broke pattern' work on an automatic programme. Whenever they get any spare cash, they go looking for somewhere to get rid of it. As sure as you get an itch nad scractch it, they'll get some money and... spend it. (For those of you who are in sales, take heart!). Mostly, they never realise what is happening! They figure it is the economy or the government or their salarythat has got them into trouble. But you could double their salaries and they would still be broke! In fact, the reason why most people who win lotteries lose the lot, is that their inner pattern is saying, "All this money doesn't feel right. It doesn't fit. You'd better do something about this."
INDISPENSABLE PATTERNS. If you have the indispensable pattern, you absolutely know that within three minutes of your going on holidays, the office will be hit by lightning and the sales staff will all come down with the 'flu. If we have a pattern like this, our belief system and our attitude will help to create and perpetrate the situation. Whenever we leave, all hell breaks loose.
JOB CHANGE PATTERNS. A fellow who was thinking of changing his job came to see me recently. He said, "My company is pulling me down, our products are inferior, and I can't pay the rent."
I said, "How long have you been in this job?"
He said two years.
I said, "What about the job you had before that?"
He said, "That onw I had for about two years."
"And the one before that?"
"Two years."
"And before that?"
"About twenty four months!"
I said, "Where is the problem - with you or the company?"
He said, "With me!"
I said, "If you are the problem, why change companies?"
In the course of our comversation I told him about a friend who had five jobs in the past eleven months. I said, "As a matter of fact, I wouldbet everything I own that in a year's time she won't be in the same employment. "That afternoon she rang me to tell me that she had quit her job! My life savings would not have been at risk!
Now this lady tells me that she is deliriously happy - so it is not for us to question whether her pattern is good or bad. Simply, it is good to recognise that we operating on programmes. We may have car and house and relationship patterns operating along similar lines.
is another pattern. It is the "PEOPLE - ARE - NASTY - LIFE - IS - HORRIBLE - WHY - IS - THE - WORLD - DOING - THIS - TO - ME - I - WISH - I - WERE - DEAD!" PATTERN. Again, we tend to create our own circumstance. This one is really no fun!
The "I ONLY EVER HAVE JUST ENOUGH TO GET BY" PATTERN. In this one, our conscious and our subconscious thinking lock us in to a situation where life is a struggle but we always "get by."
Do you relate to any of these?
The "I ALWAYS MISS OUT" PATTERN. It manifests in our being born, starting school, buying businesses, going on vacation either too early or too late! Always being in the right place at the wrong time! Also, we may have the right talents but the wrong teachers or the right teachers but the wrong talent, or no teachers and no talene.
The "PEOPLE ALWAYS RIP ME OFF" PATTERN. Need we say more?
We've started by looking at some negative patterns. There are, however, some very positive patterns, which you will relate to.
The "I"M ALWAYS HEALTHY" PATTERN. Our state of health is determined by the programmes we have between our ears which say we are and what happens to us.
Do you know somebody who is "ALWAYS IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME?" They go into business just as the boom starts, they sell their house just before the remand centre is built next door, they go on holidays and bump into some millionaire who flies them around Europe. And you think, how do they do it? If I had just a quarter of their luck! Being in the right place at the right time is a pattern.
What about the "WHATEVER I DO, I ALWAYS END UP MAKING MONEY" PATTERN? Some people have it! Or the "Whatever I buy, I always get a good deal" pattern? (And the reverse of that is the "I always ger a lemon pattern!")
Other patterns include the "I TRUST PEOPLE AND THEY ALWAYS TREAT ME WELL" programme and the "WHATEVER I DO IS ALWAYS FUN ANS EASY" pattern.
We'll assume you want to hang on to the good patterns. What about the patterns you don't want" Thus we ask ourselves, "These rotten patterns I have - when will they change? When will they stop? The answer is, "Life changes when we change!"
Trích nguyên văn của bác junruan:
"Anh thấy dạo này trong FCBVN chúng ta có nhiều người kêu buồn với chán ghê răng quá.
Anh thì anh không thích sống trong sự buồn thảm, thôi thì anh tạo ra chủ đề này để các cô chú nào thấy "đau bụng" thì vào đọc, coi như là uống thuốc Béc Be Rin vậy.
Chủ đề này do một cô bé bên diễn đàn 3M mở ra, cô ấy post lên nội dung cuốn "Being Happy". Anh đọc thấy hay thì anh dịch ra, giờ anh lại cóp về đây nhé."
Cunhoacon
Chắc hẳn rất nhiều người trong 3M đã quen thuộc với cuốn sách "Đời thay đổi khi chúng ta thay đổi" của Nhà xuất bản Trẻ. Tôi xin mạn phép giới thiệu với mọi người bản tiếng anh của cuốn sách có tựa đề Being Happy của Andrew Matthews. Hy vọng ai đã yêu mến Đời thay đổi khi chúng ta thay đổi cũng sẽ dành thời gian cho Being Happy.
Cunhoacon
Being happy!!
Chapter 1
Patterns.
Let's take a look at this mind of yours. When you walk across the road, do you have to concentrate on every step? When you chew gum, do you have to think about it? When you eat a pizza, do you have to work at digesting it? "... now if you can just fix this anchovy, I can relax and go to sleep." When you go to sleep, do you need to concentrate to keep breathing?
You don't do any of these things with your conscious mind, do you? You do them with your subconscious. We might say that the minf is like an iceberg. There is the part we see, the conscious, and the much larger part we don't see, the subconscious. Our subconscious mind is responsible for a large slice of the results that we get in our life.
When we find history repeating itself in our lives, it is that part of our minf that is responsible. Many of us hae recurring patterns - the same old experience or behavior keeps on cropping up.
Do you know somebody who is always late? I used to play tennis with a fellow who has always late. We would play tennis before work at the Hilton. I would say, "David, we are playing tennis tomorrow at 7.00 a.m." He would say, "I will be there." "Have you got that time?" "7.00 a.m. I will be there!"
Sure enough, at 7.15 next morning David would arrive. Ha had all the excuses. "My son had borrowed my racquet and put it under his bed." Next week, the same thing would happen. At 7.16 David would arrive. The reason: "I could only find one tennis shoe!" The following week, he arrived at 7.15 sharp. "The goldfish was sick and the baby was crying." And so on through the flat batteries, power failures, lost car keys and underwear that was left wet in the washing machine.
Finally, I said, "David, let's make a deal. For every minute that you are late from now on, it will cost you a dollar." He hurt his shoulder the next day and we have not played tennis since!
He thought that the world was doing it to him! He was not trying to be late consciously, but on his subconscious he had a programme th said "you are always running behind"... and that programme was running his life.
If David had accidentally got uop early and found himself on target to arrive on time, his inner programmes would have helped him find a tree to hit, or a strange road on which to get lost. He would have then taken a deep breath and said, "That's more like it - I am back behind the eight ball!"
DRAMA PATTERNS. You probably know people who have drama patterns. Theie lives are long dramas. You meet them in the street and make the fatal mistake of asking, "How are you?" You find out that the cat has just died, the car has been repossessed, Dad accidentally burned the house down, a meteorite wiped out their garage and they have just been diagnosed as having a very, very severe case of something that you have never heard of.
Whenever their life threatens to go smoothly, a little subconscious voice says, "Hey, this can't be right!" andvery soon another drama emerges. They lose their job, they get arrested... and everything returns to normal.
We are giong to look at what we can do about these patterns later, but for the monent, let us identify some more.
ACCIDENT PATTERNS. Some people have a talent for having accidents. They spend their lives falling off ladders, off bicycles, out of trees, getting electrocued and having car accidents. I know an insurance agent in her early twenties who has owned five cars since her sixteenth birthday. She told me, "Every time I bought a new car, someone smashed into the back of me. After five of those accidents, I quit buying new cars for my own survival!"
SICKNESS PATTERNS. Do you know anybody with a sickness pattern? Some people get colds twice a year. Some people get sick everytime a big opprtunity comes along. Some people get sick every Monday morning!
MESS PATTERNS. Some people are inclined towards mess. They don't consciously try and do it, but their pattern is so strong! Their desk is a mess, their files are a mess, their hair is a mess. You can come along and straighten everything out for them and within twenty minutes, their office, their bedroom, their car, their lunchbox, all look like they have been through a hurricane.
BROKE PATTERNS. Have you get someone who is always broke? It is not what we make, but what we do with what we make! People with a 'broke pattern' work on an automatic programme. Whenever they get any spare cash, they go looking for somewhere to get rid of it. As sure as you get an itch nad scractch it, they'll get some money and... spend it. (For those of you who are in sales, take heart!). Mostly, they never realise what is happening! They figure it is the economy or the government or their salarythat has got them into trouble. But you could double their salaries and they would still be broke! In fact, the reason why most people who win lotteries lose the lot, is that their inner pattern is saying, "All this money doesn't feel right. It doesn't fit. You'd better do something about this."
INDISPENSABLE PATTERNS. If you have the indispensable pattern, you absolutely know that within three minutes of your going on holidays, the office will be hit by lightning and the sales staff will all come down with the 'flu. If we have a pattern like this, our belief system and our attitude will help to create and perpetrate the situation. Whenever we leave, all hell breaks loose.
JOB CHANGE PATTERNS. A fellow who was thinking of changing his job came to see me recently. He said, "My company is pulling me down, our products are inferior, and I can't pay the rent."
I said, "How long have you been in this job?"
He said two years.
I said, "What about the job you had before that?"
He said, "That onw I had for about two years."
"And the one before that?"
"Two years."
"And before that?"
"About twenty four months!"
I said, "Where is the problem - with you or the company?"
He said, "With me!"
I said, "If you are the problem, why change companies?"
In the course of our comversation I told him about a friend who had five jobs in the past eleven months. I said, "As a matter of fact, I wouldbet everything I own that in a year's time she won't be in the same employment. "That afternoon she rang me to tell me that she had quit her job! My life savings would not have been at risk!
Now this lady tells me that she is deliriously happy - so it is not for us to question whether her pattern is good or bad. Simply, it is good to recognise that we operating on programmes. We may have car and house and relationship patterns operating along similar lines.
is another pattern. It is the "PEOPLE - ARE - NASTY - LIFE - IS - HORRIBLE - WHY - IS - THE - WORLD - DOING - THIS - TO - ME - I - WISH - I - WERE - DEAD!" PATTERN. Again, we tend to create our own circumstance. This one is really no fun!
The "I ONLY EVER HAVE JUST ENOUGH TO GET BY" PATTERN. In this one, our conscious and our subconscious thinking lock us in to a situation where life is a struggle but we always "get by."
Do you relate to any of these?
The "I ALWAYS MISS OUT" PATTERN. It manifests in our being born, starting school, buying businesses, going on vacation either too early or too late! Always being in the right place at the wrong time! Also, we may have the right talents but the wrong teachers or the right teachers but the wrong talent, or no teachers and no talene.
The "PEOPLE ALWAYS RIP ME OFF" PATTERN. Need we say more?
We've started by looking at some negative patterns. There are, however, some very positive patterns, which you will relate to.
The "I"M ALWAYS HEALTHY" PATTERN. Our state of health is determined by the programmes we have between our ears which say we are and what happens to us.
Do you know somebody who is "ALWAYS IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME?" They go into business just as the boom starts, they sell their house just before the remand centre is built next door, they go on holidays and bump into some millionaire who flies them around Europe. And you think, how do they do it? If I had just a quarter of their luck! Being in the right place at the right time is a pattern.
What about the "WHATEVER I DO, I ALWAYS END UP MAKING MONEY" PATTERN? Some people have it! Or the "Whatever I buy, I always get a good deal" pattern? (And the reverse of that is the "I always ger a lemon pattern!")
Other patterns include the "I TRUST PEOPLE AND THEY ALWAYS TREAT ME WELL" programme and the "WHATEVER I DO IS ALWAYS FUN ANS EASY" pattern.
We'll assume you want to hang on to the good patterns. What about the patterns you don't want" Thus we ask ourselves, "These rotten patterns I have - when will they change? When will they stop? The answer is, "Life changes when we change!"
